The United States of America is being torn by a civil war of clashing minds involving not only starkly differing ideas but also anger, contempt, and hatred. A war need not involve military force in order to be profoundly divisive and destructive.
The remedy I propose has implications for strengthening any social group. (See the podcast episode link at the bottom of this post.) It involves four virtues, the first of which is loyalty to one’s highest convictions of truth and righteousness. Sometimes we’re loyal to something less. But my axiom is that each person contend in a dispute is motivated in part to defend something of genuine value against a perceived threat. It is not necessary for anyone to dismantle all of his or her basic convictions in order to restore humane attitudes, civil conversation, and progressive cooperation.
The second virtue is fairness, which involves taking account of the various factors that enable us to understand why our opponents think, speak, and act as they do. Moira Hutchinson, a mediator decades ago in social, economic, and political disputes in Ontario, would convene a public discussion, ensuring that all stakeholder groups were represented. She would being her meetings by having individuals tell their stories of involvement in the dispute. Listening to others’ narratives gives empathy a chance and makes it possible to expand one’s own convictions of truth and righteousness. On that basis the group would go on to establish agreement about facts, and then to discuss ethical interpretations, and share spiritual and religious perspectives.
Fairness leads to tolerance—bearing or putting up with others as we all go through the stages of growth in this material life.
On the foundation of loyalty, fairness, and tolerance, love begins to emerge upon the horizon. I give thanks that a majority of the partisans in the currently raging political dispute cherish love as the ideal of divinely human relating. Sooner or later, we citizens of the United States country and this world will learn.
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Michael Hanian
Very timely, Jeff, thank you. Only that we humans tend to learn the hard way mostly. And this “hardness” of the way is the indeterminate leading to various scenarios, some quite appalling…
jeff@universalfamily.org
Thank you, Michael, for this essential addition!
James Perry
If more of us could embrace this divine affection, that is ours for the taking, we would certainly feel comforted as we make our way through this clash of values. This conflict is produced because of new values being introduced by the horizontal evolution of the group in the face of the old familiar but less progressive values.
We are destined to continue to evolve in our society, even in the world. If we would only realize that our positions while true to us, are only relatively true because of our imperfection of insight, we would find ample ground for compromise. But if we continue to raise temporal values to absolutes, we are doomed to be dragged through the evolutionary mud, rather than cooperate with it, and walk hand and hand with it.
We will eventually learn through trials and tribulations, that we are all in this together, that what affects the part also affects the whole. We will get there by and by, and lets us not forget that even now we are receiving help though it may not appear so to our short range insight.
Dr. Perry
jeff@universalfamily.org
Amen, brother! Wise words. “If we would only realize that our positions while true to us, are only relatively true because of our imperfection of insight, we would find ample ground for compromise. But if we continue to raise temporal values to absolutes, we are doomed to be dragged through the evolutionary mud, rather than cooperate . . . .”
Thank you.